Dating a man eight years older
While I’ll admit that it was Jack who introduced me to the joys of bottled wine over boxed and hotels over hostels, my husband is a guy who invests most of his money back into his business and his community—one of the reasons I fell for him—and I work hard to bring in my own.Besides, recent research suggests it’s millennial who are most likely to marry for money.He made the nurses giggle with slurred jokes about Snapchatting his experience in the endoscopy ward—funny, because Jack's never used Snapchat.“He’s such a hoot! Ten years ago, I couldn't have imagined settling down with a man 20 years my senior, “hoot” or not.There’s the biannual colonoscopy to sit through, because at 52, Jack’s at that point in life.Since Jack’s life in New Jersey was already established, I also reimagined my five-year plan, which had involved moving to a bigger city with a larger network of young professionals and fewer early-bird specials.I can see how, on paper, the power dynamics of my relationship look ripe for judgement. In addition to his lumberjack good looks, I attracted to Jack’s intellectual potency, his worldliness, and the unwavering way he protects the things he loves—all idealized “daddy” qualities (albeit ones I’d also find attractive in a 20-something).
When I needed an apartment—tough to find in a resort town with sky-high rents—Jack offered me a room in his house, which meant we frequently worked late before coming home to split a bottle of wine.
I worried that already living with Jack would torpedo our chance at love.
And I worked extra hard at my job in order to show the small-town-gossip set I wasn’t some floozy with a fetish for baby boomers.
“The short answer is ‘yes,’” says Pepper Schwartz, Ph.
D., AARP's love and relationship expert and best-selling author of .