Dating a woman whos ex cheated
The fact is, he has these sexy flirtations with other women, but you don’t really know why…
you don’t know his motivation or what he “gets” from it.
You say that you give him everything he needs sexually, emotionally, physically and mentally. you’re basically saying that you’re his perfect dream girl.
Maybe what you meant is that you’re giving him everything *you think* he needs sexually, emotionally, etc. Oftentimes, we love other people in the way that we want to be loved – and while you make certain adjustments toward him since he’s a dude, it’s not safe to bet that you’re satisfying his every need…
Rather than wanting him to change, the better path is to move towards understanding each other better.
But if you can see past your own hurts and desires, you’ll see men everywhere trying to fill emotional voids through their actions and achievements.
The problem is that guys know a woman’s bluff from a mile away…
and the moment you start bluffing about how much you’re willing to tolerate, he knows you’ll tolerate just about anything. Because if you’re afraid enough to lie about your limits, then it’s pretty likely that you don’t actually have limits you’re willing to enforce. Fear that this guy is the one true love of their life.
And now, a little over a year into the relationship you’re disappointed that he’s still the same guy… People do this all the time, but it doesn’t make it right or sane.
The fact is, this whole pattern of people projecting a fantasy version of someone onto the actual person is ludicrous.