Dating advice for college guys
So when there are thousands of cute members of the opposite sex running around campus, do you set your heart on of them and ignore the rest? But you’re smarter than us, so you shouldn’t do that. The most likely thing a girl that age is going to do with her mind is to change it.And then get massively depressed when that one says no? You should rejoice in the fact that you are surrounded by babes, all of whom are single (college women who are reading this: that goes for you, too). Granted, the odds may be good, but the goods are definitely odd. You need to appreciate the psychology of college-age women Kevin says that Wow. Kevin is sharp enough to notice this, too, about the putative ‘boyfriend’: all that sure about him. Girls her age simply have no idea what they want, and many end up as fully-grown who don’t really know what they want. Lemme get this straight: you haven’t started dating her yet.In short, she seems conflicted – as if I may be both a source of happiness and confusion. This letter touches upon many themes that are relevant to the love lives of college boys, so we’re going to blunt-dissect them one-by-one, because that’s the best way to see all the components of folly that’s going on here — and destroy them in the process :) Why does all of this sound familiar to me?(To think that I may be a cause of anxiety is a terribly frustrating thought! Because I was Kevin not too long ago, all through college and medical school. You must get out of the scarcity mentality This is the big no-no when it comes to college romance.Additionally, I am continually impressed by the respect, humility, and humor with which you communicate. I knew from her comportment (and the fact that she always brought her biology text to rehearsal) that she was someone with whom I could become close friends, and hopefully more.After weeks, I finally worked up the courage to introduce myself. Even though we do not share mutual friends (she is a sophomore), we have gone on hikes, runs, and bike rides together. This past summer, since she worked in a lab near my house, we had a wonderful picnic on the Charles River.If you’re interested, all it takes is a slow pack-up-and-hang-back after class to initiate conversation.
Here are the guidelines of how to deal with the ones who are, and the ones who aren’t. These guys will be super fun to hang out with once they get to know each other well, and you’ll be the cool girl who can get in on that action when you need a break from girl drama.
Even though we only live an hour apart (Massachusetts to New Hampshire), unless she were to break up with her boyfriend, we will likely not see each other much (if at all) after I graduate. They live right next door, or at most a 5min walk across campus.
I know that if I do not tell her how I feel soon, I will not have a second chance. I have never attempted to date a girl who was in a relationship before and she is the only girl I have ever met that I would do anything to spend my life with. First of all, thank you Kevin for your astute observations on the nature of my work. And you’re in constant casual contact with all of them – at meals, in classes, at campus events. Before I pour another inch-thick layer of jamoca almond sarcasm on this, lemme tell ya something: the whole fickleness thing is not a bug – it’s a feature.
As a freshman girl, eligible cuties seem to be everywhere, and guess what? The attention can be fun, but when it comes down to it, the dating game in college is one that you’ll learn a lot about as time goes on—you might not be a pro right off the bat.
To get started, Her Campus has put together a list of the DOs and DON’Ts of college dating.