Dating two guys at the same time
People are generally equipped to handle bad events better than they handle bad attitudes or treatment." It's unavoidable that you're going to let some people down.
But a little consideration, some warning ahead of time, an acknowledgement of fault, and a sincere effort to protect the people around you will go a long way.
I believe wisdom involves focusing on one man at a time. If you're thinking of having dinner with guy A on Friday, telling him you love him, and kissing him passionately before saying goodnight, and then doing all that again with guy B on Saturday, I'd say you're in for a heap of trouble. Remember that before they're a potential husband, they're your brother in Christ.
When Steve and I were growing in friendship, along with a great group of other singles in our graduate school program, I knew it would be impossible to move forward in our relationship (past friendship) until, and unless, he considered what we had together apart from all the other possibilities. Relate to them that way, and you'll save yourself (and them) a lot of heartache and sorrow. Resist the temptation to race ahead of where you are in .
I feel guilty going out with both of them at the same time, though.
Maybe, more importantly, they deserve to like they have your undivided attention.
It's Not What You Say, It's How You Say It Most people you meet are prepared for you to do something shitty to them. But there's a big difference between a bad thing done poorly and a bad thing done well.
As you're finding, it complicates things to try and grow in friendship toward marriage with two men at one time.
You make the work of discerning a man's character and commitment to Christ more difficult by entertaining the possibility of two men at once.