Dating within your church
Going to the same church doesn’t mean you automatically know each other, or automatically fit well together.
Going to the same church and having a terrible break-up will mean trouble for your fellowship. This is the principle that I have to stress the most.
But when you fellowship in the same assembly, when you share the same friends, and attend the same events it can be very difficult.
I can speak from real experience here, both as a pastor and as a former serial dater.
Remember that if you break-up you will still have responsibilities to pray for them, love them, and serve alongside them.
Be careful and strategic about what you say and do in your relationship.
But seriously, the amount of pressure that sizing up a newbie for marriage puts on a casual coffee date, not to mention the fact that you KNOW NOTHING ABOUT THE PERSON (sorry, I’m worked up and yelling) does two things: 1.
It paralyzes an organic and healthy period of “getting to know someone” and 2.
When some relationships fall apart the couple can go their separate ways and work through the break-up apart from each other.Dating within the church is risky for the whole church.As the pastor of a young church full of college students I have seen first-hand the real danger that dating within the church poses to the whole assembly. I will not go on a rant—and I firmly believe women can be just as brave—but I do notice a lot of Christian men who are afraid to pass the friend threshold. So with that, I’m going to sign off and actually speak to the folks who can do something about this. They think you don’t notice, but we know better, don’t we? We have some serious issues to work out, namely, the lack of courage displayed by really good men who are hiding their heads in the sand, even as their heart longs to connect. This message was that casual dating is not good, women’s hearts must be guarded by men, and all romantic relationships better have marriage in mind—or the people in them are just using each other.This is why so many women date non-Christians; because Christian guys rarely can just keep it casual and go on a date, give it a chance. Your pal, Eddie Dear every kind-hearted, well-meaning, a little bit quiet but not around your bros, comfortable in groups but not one-on-one, single and secretly dreaming of dating (and marriage and kids), kind, helpless, you thought you’d be in a relationship by now but what the heck is going on, I kissed dating goodbye but forgot about procreation and God’s design for relationships, awesome, good men, We have a problem. You noticed the moment she started her internship at your workplace that she was just wonderful, nice to chat with, attractive, marriage material, the bearer of your progeny, and definitely the one God has sent from on high to satisfy your deepest longing and … Yet while all these concepts have elements of wisdom embedded in them, they’ve been distorted just like so many good ideas before them (i.e. The truth is, we’re a people who, when left unchecked, go into Pharisee mode like it’s our job. Let’s walk through the three messages: Message: Casual dating is not good.