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You're saying some pretty hurtful things to me, and I don't feel like you're being very considerate of my feelings. It’s just that lately I haven’t been in the mood for sex at all. And I know it does, which is why I’m trying to finally talk about it. It’s not about you being a jerk or being bad in bed.
And until we talk about what I think I’ll like more, I don’t think it makes sense to make this about you, you know?
I don't have a disability, but there are plenty of things I can't do or which don't feel comfortable for me, too.
How about we start with the good stuff: that’s easy, right? But it's often painful for me to do it in the position you keep wanting to do it in. So, what can I do to make that even better, and how can we do it so you're comfortable? maybe we could try it like You: I want to talk to you about something that’s been bothering me, and it isn’t easy to talk about, but I need to. You: Well, I keep feeling like maybe you don’t understand that just because you’re finished with sex, that doesn’t mean I am. You: You don’t need to feel terrible: I should have said something before now, I was just too nervous.
I’m still feeling kind of funny about all of this, and it might take me a little time to feel really comfortable again with sex, but I would like to talk about what you like for the next time, and I’m really sorry you felt like you had to pretend. You: I’m cool going to the bedroom if you want to, but I don’t feel like it’s time for me to step things up yet. Them: But we’ve been going out for a while now, it just feels right, and you’re so sexy right now. You: Hey, I’m glad you think I’m sexy: I think you’re hot, too.
And while I also really care about you, it doesn’t feel right for me yet. You: I’ve been thinking a lot about sex with you if it’s something you’d like to do with me, too.