My boyfriend is still using dating websites
It means he is looking for variety while keeping you as the GF. You are the only one who can choose whether you want to turn a blind eye or end it with him. We had a huge fight about this about a month ago when I once again found him on POF.
If your scared to confront him make your own POF webpage. Tell him you didn't know how to address him on it and this was the best solution to get his attention. When they boyfriend is going on POF and such..means he is looking for discreet affairs and is quite bored with the relationship and is looking to have his needs met for casual what is for him is sex and nothing emotional. Every few months or so I caught him doing something similar.
Then when he freaks out on you tell him thats how you felt and you wanted him to understand the anger and hurt you felt. I say you can forgive someone but never forget what they do to your heart My boyfriend done exactly the same about a week ago, I found him on a dating site so I made an account myself as someone else and messaged him, he even sent me his number, I'm still with him now I don't even no what to do You made an account knowing that your boyfriend didn't know it was you ok And he gave you his number ( hello) he gave you his number to a random girl who wasn't his girlfriend. However, he was exchanging phone numbers with these women.
TRUST is the biggest thing in a relationship with out trust it's nothing. Nope He has just broken the vows before even making them. He claims he doesn't know why he does it, he is bored and that he would never actually act on any of it.
I'm in a two year relationship now and this is the first time anything like this happening to me.
But my point is, ignoring the issue will only make it worse. After a period, due to this ignorance, he may get the courage to bring this cheating out of the cyber world into real world. I think it is a GREAT idea to post your photo with the exact same profile as he has done on POF and see how he responds. Eventually one day I took out my photo album where there were many pictures of old boyfriends and casually flipped through it. If he comes off all defensive and accuses you of invading his privacy, you will know what kind if man you have on your hands - one who is not fully appreciative of you. You are the first prize, not the consolation prize. It's bringing me down and making me feel like there is something wrong with me, makes me feel super insecure.
Confronted him and he snapped saying he wasn't ready for a realationship..
Do you live with this or stop it all and find another who may do the same thing.... The fight...one you think started it all...let that happen and then used it as the excuse to indulge. Shut up and live with it or pack up and move on girlfriend. You need to be able to watch his reaction and see the whole story. Maybe he's having cyber sex with these people--but it's up to you to draw the line with what you are okay with and not. I'm just saying that 5 years is a long time, and while you ABSOLUTELY have a right to be hurt, suspicious, and angry, hear him out. If you are just a temporary girl in his mind, you will get more hurt later down the road. I checked his call log and there were calls while I was at work and while I was sleeping to a local chat line.
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He will say anything to avoid you finding out the truth.
From what you describe of your boyfriend, he does have that issue. What you can do is seek help for yourself, and separate from him so you can heal.