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Here’s what’s happened in the past year — two girlfriends have gotten engaged, and one has her condo on the market and is looking with her boyfriend to buy a new place and move in together. So, because of that and the fact that we live longer, she says, it’s worth putting the time and energy into looking for love regardless of your age.They are all 50-something, empty-nesters and divorced. The difference between men and women at this age, however, is that we don’t necessarily want the same things. Keep that space always ready to receive her and invite her in, and refuse to let anyone or anything else enter there. She doesn’t have to stay with you, and if you don’t take care of her heart, she may give that heart to someone else or seal you out completely, and you may never be able to get it back. Focus to the point where you can no longer see anything but love, and you know without a doubt that you are the luckiest man on earth to be have this woman as your wife. And if she changes, love what she becomes, whether it’s what you wanted or not. Take full accountability for your own emotions: It’s not your wife’s job to make you happy, and she get frustrated or angry at her, it is only because it is triggering something inside of you. When you feel those feelings take time to get present and to look within and understand what it is inside of you that is asking to be healed. (Okay, getting a little too poetic here, but you get the point. One of those men may be like I was, and in these hard earned lessons perhaps something will awaken in him and he will learn to be the man his lady has been waiting for.
And if you concluded that, because of those observations, you weren’t inclined to try online dating again, you’d have plenty of evidence to support yourself. So let’s keep on going with your other misconceptions about online dating: You dated online for 3 months and didn’t find love? You’ve been in love 3 times in 40 years – why would you think you should it in 90 days on JDate? It’s not because you have no integrity or are a congenital liar.Because men have shorter lifespans, many older men are interested in having a potential caregiver or a “nurse with a purse.” They tend to marry quicker than older women, but it isn’t because older women can’t find a hubby; it’s because women are more likely to be looking for a short-term relationship or a companion, not a husband.That isn’t true for my three girlfriends, but it’s true for me.If you’ve resisted online dating because of your preconceived notions about how it is, I assure you, it’s because you’ve never tried it my way.I usually don’t plug products here, but please, do yourself a favor and check out my audio series, Finding the One Online.