Talk your children dating after divorce
Your mother is telling you to stick it out for the sake of the kids.
Your best friend with the hot new fling thinks you should have ended things years ago.
The end of a marriage can be stressful enough: A psychiatric scale developed in the 1960s rates divorce as the second most challenging life event, ranking it higher than a jail term or the death of a family member (the most stressful is the death of a spouse).
It makes sense to avoid adding work-related anxiety to your emotional trauma.
“But getting information isn’t the same as acting on it,” she says.And your co-worker, who side-hustles home-brewed kombucha, wants to sign you up for a tantric yoga retreat.When it comes to offering opinions about divorce, “everyone has something to say, and a lot of it has nothing to do with your own situation,” says journalist Wendy Paris, who chronicled her own marital breakup in a recent book called .“You might ask them, if they were doing it again, what would they do differently? “And you can talk to them about what they’ve learned.” In Paris’ case, a male friend offered valuable insights into some of the challenges that might lie ahead, especially when it comes to subsequent relationships.“He’d had an incredibly difficult time,” she says, “and I asked him what was so hard for him, and how I could avoid that.” His observation: The emotional toll can linger long after the legal papers are signed.